Success Starts Here!

I know what you're thinking "well, there it is, he went off the deep end now". Bear with me. I'm gonna get to something special. Or try to at least. So here's the scientific part. For many years, really since Einstein and before, scientists and mathematicians have knows there to be multiple "dimensions" if you will. You know some of them. A quick refresher on dimensions. A straight line on a piece of paper is considered one-dimensional because it only has length. If you intersect a second line through the first, you now have a two dimensional rendering as you have both length and width. And in the world we see every day, our third dimension, we see length, width, and depth. The next dimension is time. What's interesting about the 4th dimension is we can only see a snapshot of the right now at any given moment but all possibilities, all realities are coexisting at the same exact time. We know from experience that we are where we are because of the d

There has probably never been a better time in the history of mankind to be a Psychologist. We are a nation of pissed-off people! Seriously, did you see that guy cut you off today? What's his his problem? What about the one that cut way to the front of the line coming off the interstate? What, she can't wait like everyone else? Don't you just wanna beat them up? And boy, when you get home, somebody better not cross you because you're already on edge and you're just looking for a fight. HOLY MOLY when did we get so angry about everything? We love to hold onto emotion don't we? We've become emotional hoarders no different than the people in those TV shows with houses full of "junk". I have friends who will hold grudges for days, months, years. I know people still upset about what happened when they were a kid and they're 40 or 50 years old. Come on people! We are not the only creatures to feel emotion. Don't believe me, mess with that dog

Well ok so there was a little wordplay there in my title. No I'm not going to give you a review about Facebook or the movie. What I would like to talk about is how social media has made what I consider to be a healthy change in the hearts of its users. Let's face it social media has changed our lives. For me it began with Myspace. It was fun. Getting to make my own backgrounds of course always honoring Boston or New England teams :), throwing random zip codes up and meeting people; it was such new ground. For the first time in our lives for those who remember the early to mid-90s, we were able to communicate with people outside of our world. We were able to make friends in places we had never seen, and we were also able to take on personas which we could never be. I think at some point I described myself as 6'4", athletic, hot, tall, dark, and handsome. Some of you who read this know me and know, um, as much as I would love to be, I am sadly none of those things. The

Eighty-two years ago a child was born in Atlanta, Georgia to a proud Martin Luther and Alberta Williams King. A precocious boy, Martin Jr. was energetic and inquisitive and by all accounts a model student dedicated to both his family and his father's church. He was a pretty good kid. He could have been anything but chose to follow in his father's footsteps into preaching. As a man of the cloth, he could travel this great nation and speak wherever he wanted. As long as he traveled in the back of the bus, ate at colored restaurants, drank out of the colored water fountain, and spoke on his side of the tracks. This all didn't really sit well with this young man. He found it impossible to reconcile this country was the beacon of freedom for the peoples of the world, but its own citizens of color couldn't fully enjoy its liberties. Friends, as I regularly state in my posts, the difference between the notables in our world and the faceless masses are those two things which

The laundry is overflowing, the dishes haven't be washed, the floors aren't swept or mopped, the rugs haven't been vacuumed, there's globs of toothpaste dried on the sink. You look around at all there is to do, and what do you do? You say "the heck with it, I'm off to get a manicure" (replace with whatever you favorite lazy pleasure is if mani's aren't your thing). Come on, you do it. You've done it. You're gonna do it again. We all have. It's called Analysis Paralysis. Analysis Paralysis is when you over-think, over-analyze and ultimately overwhelm yourself to the point of paralysis and only in our awesome human brains does it make sense to just leave it all there and go do something else. The problem is of course, when you get back from that manicure or that trip to drool over the latest motorcycle or lawnmower (depending on your desire for speed), the mess is still there. The short term escape does nothing to help your long-term pro

Well here it is, the week where people begin to find excuses to relieve themselves from the pressures of all those darn New Years resolutions. Sure last week was easy; it was the first week back to work after the New Year. We still had visions of watching the ball drop in Times Square and were strong in our convictions to succeed at our resolutions/goals so keeping on-track was quite easy. Tomorrow as we all awake for our first real "test", the true fitness loyalists will probably find a little more room in their gyms. It will get roomier and roomier and roomier. People will soon start to go back to their old ways at work as well; the old "do the same thing expecting something different and when it doesn't happen blame the boss or the company" routine. Sadly many of us Americans feel we are "entitled" to success. Many of us expect our companies to reward us for our mediocrity and get upset when we aren't rewarded. We sure have some gall don't

For the first time since we humans moved away from the rural landscapes and villages of our ancestors we have a an amazing ability. We can literally turn back the hands of time. Facebook may have a lot of things wrong with it but it has done something amazing, it took the vast wilderness called the internet and given us all a common village. We now have the ability to reconnect with people who just a generation ago, heck just a few years ago, we weren't able to. Friends that grew up together and live on opposite ends of the earth who would have only existed in each others' lives as memories of days gone by are finding each other. Families are creating closer connections. We can maintain relationships we simply could not have not too long ago. How cool is that? Well, unless that dreaded ex comes a-callin'. But that is better left for another blog on another day. Today, I want to tell you about my facebook community. I might sound a little like Andy Rooney so forgive me if I

You know you do it. We all do. Even people who say their only resolution is not to make a resolution do it. They just don't tell anybody. Let's face it, New Years just happens to be a seemingly logical start point to us reaching our goals, whatever they might be. That is why we are all so drawn to making resolutions. Sadly, we also know very few people actually succeed at accomplishing their resolutions. Just look at any gym the first week of January. You can barely walk there are so many people. By March, only the loyal few are still there. So what is the secret? What allows those "loyal few" to succeed where the vast majority of those who begin with the best intentions, ultimately fail? I believe it is two very specific things which separate those who will reach the year 2012 with successes in their resolutions and the majority of us who will be resolving yet again 12 months from now to do it all over again. I believe the secret to goal/resolution success are these